This is also true with emotional baggage. Some people expect you to take their shit because you are their friend. The highest respect should be reserved for your friends. Yes, you can have small fights with them, fool around with them, go crazy with them, have occasional tantrums because of them, but never ever treat them as if they exist for your convenience. For me that is the highest form of disrespect. Friends bear some of our faults because they know that these are part of who we are. They will freely take this burden upon themselves for they believe it is a small price to pay to continue enjoying your company. They will not buckle under the weight because they are bearing it with glad hearts.We should always strive to make ourselves light, especially for those people who are constantly around us: family, friends, co-workers, etc. People are carrying their own weight too and we should do our best not to add to their burden. We can make ourselves light by making ourselves strong enough to lift ourselves. True, there are burdens that are too heavy for us to carry and we can ask our friends to help us but never shift most of the burden to them. That would be unfair. It is the same thing with shopping bags and luggage. Bring only what you can carry. If you need to bring more than you can carry, politely ask your companions to help you and do not expect them to carry everything. Or if there are just too many bags, hire a porter with a cart.
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