rePost: Self sacrifice is not how you grow as a leader.

https://blog.coleadership.com/self-sacrifice-is-not-how-you-grow-as-a-leader/
Embracing a growth mindset can sometimes be as simple as asking ourselves, “What can I learn from this experience?” Other times, it’s helpful to have a more guided set of questions to help us learn from difficult situations:
What’s holding me back from thriving in these situations? Being honest with ourselves by acknowledging where we are is the first step toward growth. Very often, the biggest obstacles to where we want to be is ourselves, and we need to start by naming any beliefs we hold about ourselves that are getting in the way.
What’s possible if I could handle these types of situations easily? This type of visioning into the future keeps us motivated in the day-to-day. It gives us a destination to work towards.
What has to be true for this discomfort to instead feel easy? Identifying the gap between where are we and where we want to be gives us a path from our starting point to our destination.
What help do I need to ask for? When we realize that sustainable leadership isn’t about self-sacrifice, then we also allow the possibility of others helping us on our journey. Asking for help can be hard — and another area for growth — and effective leaders ask for help.
What can I do to systematically improve my ability to handle these situations? We’re not looking for overnight changes, just how we can be even just 1% better every day — that’s a large part of why I turn my journaling into a daily practice.
Over time, as we keep learning and growing, those 1% improvements compound into differences that look like night and day. And what was once hard and uncomfortable can become easy and normal.