Best Sentence Today 2008 03 17

Steve Jobs :On what drives Apple employees

“We don’t get a chance to do that many things, and every one should be really excellent. Because this is our life. Life is brief, and then you die, you know? So this is what we’ve chosen to do with our life. We could be sitting in a monastery somewhere in Japan. We could be out sailing. Some of the [executive team] could be playing golf. They could be running other companies. And we’ve all chosen to do this with our lives. So it better be damn good. It better be worth it. And we think it is.”

Can you honestly say this with what you are doing with your life? Are you actively trying to find something great to do with the great gift of life God has given you? Are you continually making excuses and taking the easy way out? Is how you feel during leisure an order of magnitude different(greater,happier) than what you feel during work?

If you do not examine yourself right now and ask yourself these questions when will you ever find out? If you continue to go the remote control path what do you think will happen. You are never going to be really happy by just going where other people tell you to go. Ask yourself these questions , and afterwards after reflecting on your answers think of somebody whom you trust and who would be honest to you. Find that person, and ask him about life, ask about the things you admire about his life, find out how he got to where he is, and about the principles tht guided him.

In an anime Full Metal Alchemist    full metal alchemist ost

there is this principle of equivalent exchangeTo Obtain Anything Something Of Equal Value Must Be Sacrificed.

You have to sacrifice now for a life well spent, remember the old adage “you can’t have your cake and eat it”. It takes sacrifice now and the pain that comes with going your own way.

Never Give Up On Your Dreams!

Follow Your Heart!

Love Means Never Having To Say I’m Sorry part 1

I’ve been a very boring person this past two years. You could compress all I’ve been trying to say with just a few words.

  • Passion
  • Love
  • Self Awareness
  • Self Expression
  • Reality

Since working for a start-up (My first job actually!), afterwards discovering the likes of Paul Graham and other Start-up Envangelist.(I know I am weird I joined a tech startup before being brainwashed and fully converted to the startup way of thinking). Got Fired and depressed. Got depressed enough to go working for a traditional but still small to medium software company! Got Fired again. Now trying my hand in Cooperative/startup hybrid.

I am simply unemployable.(But this is for another post.)

What I was really going to say before the mini autobiography is that in trying to be true to yourself, in trying to find who you really are, you are bound to do things to feel sorry for but love means never having to say I am sorry. It is selfish, yes it is extremely selfish but the fact is it is true.
We must never intentionally hurt anyone but there is a line between trying not to hurt anyone and doing what is best for you. When that line has to be crossed err in the side of finding yourself. Err in the side of your happiness. It happens often enough but the fact is you cannot apologize for trying to be happy. You can be sorry for how it affected them but never for what you did! Never!

more to follow…..

On Listening To What Your Inner Self Is Telling You

follow up to : On Betrayal

I was thinking about my previous post on betrayal and I realized I can take it in a another direction. So here goes.

Sometimes when your doing something and it contradicts what you are saying may be you are not betraying yourself but actually trying to learn. What I am trying to say is maybe you just do not realize what you are doing contradicts what you profess to believe in. May be in some alternate chain of actions what you are doing does not really contradict what wou are saying. maybe, maybe.

But, what I believe is actually happening is that you are failing to listen to what your inner self is telling you.

When you have such a tough time getting yourself to go to work, your innerself is telling you something.

When you are more energetic at your hobby or side project after working a 9-5, your innerself is telling you something.

When all you can do is just smile whenever someone is talking, listening but finding yourself wondering about what you are going to do next,your innerself is telling you something.

When all you seem to do is laugh when you are with them and you are suddenly a different person, your innerself is telling you something.

When you can’t seem to shake the image of her face and how she slants her head whenever she talks, your innerself is telling you something.

When it hurts so much that you cant seem to find anyone who understands how much pain you are feeling, your innerself is telling you something.

I think that we have always had that inner compass, that inner self that we just cant lie to. We go through life first having no innerself because when we were young we did what we felt doing and because we knew little evil we weren’t that bad, And as we grew and got a little smarter, developed a little slyness and knew more evil things or maybe learned somethings to fear or learned to be more insecure we separated with the true us that lies within, that part of our being who we cannot lie to, where we can show no pretenses just the truth.

This is the innerself I speak about. This is the innerself we must be more aware of, for I would make you a bet that if you did listen more to it you’d be happier by far!

On Betrayal

The things we do is what I believe the true revelations to what/who we are and what we really want to be or maybe what we already are.

What do I mean?

When you say you want to become healthy and you still never have any time for exercise or never watch what you eat,

You are betraying yourself.

When you say you want to be hooked or find a nice girl/guy to be with and all you do is stay at your room and read ,

You are betraying yourself.

When you say you want to learn ow to drive/program/fish/etc and you always have an excuse not to,

You are betraying yourself.

Betrayal is one of the most heinous crimes one can commit in a war.In desperate circumstances they are summarily executed. In our lives we are continuously battling to find the perfect job, to find the perfect mate, to find true friends. This is a war that we must win, thus we must execute the betrayers within us, to start living the truth. It is very hard as I am finding out, but what is harder is to meet the end of your life and see that you have too many regrets, choices never decided, paths left untraveled, friends never made, relationships never started,  business never built, dreams never accomplished.

I refuse to regret.

I will buck the trend of this world.

I will continue to dream and pursue action.

I will not live a half-ass life of regret. My parents sacrificed a lot for our family, to put us(their children) in a position to dream. I will not let them sacrifice for naught.   I live for me and for them.

On Failure

“Failure is not the only punishment for laziness; there is also the success of others.” Jules Renard

Sometimes failure is a feedback loop, you fail once and your failure follows you makes everything you do just a little bit harder. When this happens we sometimes over think the original mistake or even worse we become enmeshed thinking of all the mistakes we make. When this happens be glad when you have someone you trust who knows that this is just a growing pain and that things like these eventually makes us stronger better people. If you aren’t that lucky what happens? Well people advise you with cosmetic changes, or try to address the symptoms of the problem not really the problem which is that It is OK to fail, and that Failing is different than being a failure.

We are a failure if the mistakes we made didn’t help us grow but made us scared to live.

We are a failure if the mistakes we made only made us bitter people.

We are a failure if the mistakes we made helped started us stop believing in ourselves.

We are not a failure when we choose to learn.

We are not a failure when we choose to be thankful for what we have and have another go at things.

We are not a failure when we choose to live a life we will not regret.

A Life where we believe in ourselves and what our hands can do, our mids can imagine and our voices can say.

I must begin taking this advice.

“Try as hard as we may for perfection, the net result of our labors is an amazing variety of imperfectness. We are surprised at our own versatility in being able to fail in so many different ways.”
Samuel McChord Crothers

Some Lovin for The Wire from Newsweek!

Couldn’t have said this any better myself!

Joshua Alston on the Wire Finale:

from here:

“The Wire” succeeded in its final episode. The finale was peppered with Charm City montages, random shots of skylines, local attractions and average folks. And “The Wire” has always been a show about the city of Baltimore, about taking an honest look at the city in a way that you can only if you love it unconditionally, as the show’s creator David Simon clearly does. The finale also captured the agony and the ecstasy of being a fan of the show. “The Wire” was always a bit like a bad relationship. It required an inordinate amount of commitment and emotional investment. Some of our friends didn’t get it, and we thought less of them as a result. It broke our hearts over and over and we crawled back for more. But when it was good, whew … it was so good.

Amen to That!

Trying To Find The Sweet Spot Where Happiness and Passion Fuse

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