Good advice. All of them<\/p>\n
\nThe future will never provide the reassurance you seek from it<\/strong>.<\/strong>\u00a0As the ancient Greek and Roman Stoics understood, much of our suffering arises from attempting to control what is not in our control. And the main thing we try but fail to control \u2013 the seasoned worriers among us, anyway \u2013 is the future. We want to\u00a0know<\/em>, from our vantage point in the present, that things will be OK later on. But we never can. (This is why it\u2019s wrong to say we live in especially uncertain times. The future is always uncertain; it\u2019s just that we\u2019re currently very aware of it.)<\/p>\n
It\u2019s freeing to grasp that no amount of fretting will ever alter this truth. It\u2019s still useful to make plans. But do that with the awareness that a plan is only ever a present-moment statement of intent, not a lasso thrown around the future to bring it under control. The spiritual teacher\u00a0Jiddu Krishnamurti<\/a>\u00a0said his secret was simple: \u201cI don\u2019t mind what happens.\u201d That needn\u2019t mean not trying to make life better, for yourself or others. It just means not living each day anxiously braced to see if things work out as you hoped.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n