{"id":5252,"date":"2012-04-21T21:57:26","date_gmt":"2012-04-21T13:57:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/?p=5252"},"modified":"2012-04-21T21:57:26","modified_gmt":"2012-04-21T13:57:26","slug":"learned-todaysinglismall-the-single-ladies-magazine-the-atlantic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/2012\/04\/21\/learned-todaysinglismall-the-single-ladies-magazine-the-atlantic\/","title":{"rendered":"Learned Today::Singlism::All the Single Ladies &#8211; Magazine &#8211; The Atlantic"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>Bella DePaulo, a Harvard-trained social psychologist who is now a visiting professor at the University of California at Santa Barbara, is America\u2019s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience. In 2005, she coined the word singlism, in an article she published in Psychological Inquiry. Intending a parallel with terms like racism and sexism, DePaulo says singlism is \u201cthe stigmatizing of adults who are single [and] includes negative stereotyping of singles and discrimination against singles.\u201d In her 2006 book, Singled Out, she argues that the complexities of modern life, and the fragility of the institution of marriage, have inspired an unprecedented glorification of coupling. (Laura Kipnis, the author of Against Love, has called this \u201cthe tyranny of two.\u201d) This marriage myth\u2014\u201cmatrimania,\u201d DePaulo calls it\u2014proclaims that the only route to happiness is finding and keeping one all-purpose, all-important partner who can meet our every emotional and social need. Those who don\u2019t have this are pitied. Those who don\u2019t want it are seen as threatening. Singlism, therefore, \u201cserves to maintain cultural beliefs about marriage by derogating those whose lives challenge those beliefs.\u201d<br \/>\nvia <a href=\"http:\/\/www.theatlantic.com\/magazine\/archive\/2011\/11\/all-the-single-ladies\/8654\/?single_page=true\">All the Single Ladies &#8211; Magazine &#8211; The Atlantic<\/a>.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bella DePaulo, a Harvard-trained social psychologist who is now a visiting professor at the University of California at Santa Barbara, is America\u2019s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience. In 2005, she coined the word singlism, in an article she published in Psychological Inquiry. Intending a parallel with terms like racism and sexism, DePaulo &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/2012\/04\/21\/learned-todaysinglismall-the-single-ladies-magazine-the-atlantic\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;Learned Today::Singlism::All the Single Ladies &#8211; Magazine &#8211; The Atlantic&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[48],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5252","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-learned-today"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5252","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5252"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5252\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5252"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5252"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5252"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}