When your parents were growing up, the only people who lived somewhat comfortable lives were either corrupt government<\/a> bureaucrats or the well-educated elite who went to top-ranked colleges. Chances are, your parents didn’t have insider connections to government bureaucrats, because otherwise they would’ve been living a comfortable life back in their home country and wouldn’t have wanted to get out of there. That means, in their eyes, there was only one path that could lead to a comfortable life in the future: Doing well in school<\/a> and getting admitted to an elite top-ranked university<\/a>. This isn’t just idle speculation, either. Your parents actually saw what happened to their classmates who got bad grades and were unable to get into a good college — they are now ass-poor, living in unhealthy wretched conditions.
\nSeriously, this is no joke. When your home society doesn’t provide any opportunities for personal advancement, the only way to make a decent living is to play by the rules of the establishment. And when the establishment relies purely on grades, standardized test<\/a> scores, and college reputation for assigning jobs, then no wonder your parents are so obsessed with those things! They don’t realize that in America<\/a>, the C-average students who went to community college<\/a> can actually live a decent life rather than rotting away in sewage-ridden slums. No matter how many times you tell them that you won’t be homeless even if you don’t attend a top-ranked college, they will never genuinely believe it; their traumatic childhood experiences left a far more powerful impression than your words ever will.
\nvia Philip Guo – Understanding and dealing with overbearing Asian parents<\/a>.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
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