{"id":1250,"date":"2009-03-06T05:49:11","date_gmt":"2009-03-06T10:49:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/?p=1250"},"modified":"2009-03-06T05:49:11","modified_gmt":"2009-03-06T10:49:11","slug":"repost-learning-to-be-forgivingguilt-and-forgiveness-part-1-at-paulo-coelhos-blog","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/onthe8spot.com\/index.php\/2009\/03\/06\/repost-learning-to-be-forgivingguilt-and-forgiveness-part-1-at-paulo-coelhos-blog\/","title":{"rendered":"rePost: Learning to Be Forgiving:Guilt and forgiveness – Part 1 at Paulo Coelho\u2019s Blog"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Let’s just say I am not the ost forgiving person in the planet. I remember slights as far back as the second grade<\/a>, but I remember because I believe I have something that could be called emotional memory<\/a>. I tend to remember events, facts etc related to intense emotions<\/a> that I feel. This means both extremes, happiness and sadness<\/a> makes a mark on me that is hard to erase and so easy to recall and even easier to reinforce.
\nForgiveness I think is a function of acceptance. Read the story accompanying the excerpted news. it’s quite good.<\/p>\n

The story clearly illustrates our own problems with guilt<\/a> and forgiveness. When we were children<\/a>, we would often overhear our mother saying: \u2018My child only behaved foolishly because he got into bad company. He\u2019s a very good boy really.\u2019
\nAnd so we never took responsibility for our actions, never asked for forgiveness and ended up forgetting<\/a> that we must also be generous with those who offend us. The act of forgiveness has nothing to do with feelings of guilt or cowardice: we all make mistakes and it is only by occasionally stumbling that we can improve and progress.<\/strong> On the other hand, if we are too tolerant of our own behaviour – especially when this hurts other people – we become isolated and incapable of correcting our path.<\/strong>
\nGuilt and forgiveness – Part 1 at Paulo Coelho\u2019s Blog<\/a>.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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