I wish more people practice this. I’ve been trying to influence my friends to listen (not multitask) when conversing but, I did It by example and one of the things I suspect about how people are right now is that the inaudibles, the visuals , and other non auditory form of communication are largely ignored. How the F*ck can you activate your Social Brain (google Arthur Goleman google talk) without the non visuals.

Thanks to Doc Searls for the pointer.

from here:

Lessons of Silence
by Bruno Kahne

5/22/08
What the deaf can teach us about listening — and making ourselves heard.

1. Look people in the eye.

2. Don’t interrupt.

3. Say what you mean, as simply as possible.

4. When you don’t understand something, ask.

5. Stay focused.